The Four Ways Intimate Partner Violence Shows Up.

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Intimate Partner Violence. 

I had to take a break from The State of American Men 2025 Research study. The last three podcasts have generated so much interest there are no longer enough numbers in the universe to calculate the number of downloads. It’s amazing! 

The reality is, if no one is listening to your content, you need to think about coming up with something else to talk about and today I took some time to do that. I’ve been using Perplexity.ai, Krok and ChatGPT and the clear winner out of all three is ChatGPT. No question. It’s been fun figuring out how they all work and how long it takes for them to answer a complicated question and how right all of them are after a couple of seconds of thinking about it. 

Intimate Provider Violence is not a term I’ve heard until today. When I asked ChapGTP to search if there are any research studies or surveys done that reference men being victims of psychological aggression, it came back with the 2015 study I’m going to be talking about today. I’ve never really considered how much domestic violence could impact anyone and now that emotional and psychological aggression is added to the list I became much more curious. 

For me, I spend roughly 20 years together and married to my x-wife and I NEVER ….EVER considered I could be a victim of emotional abuse, gaslighting, isolating me from family and loved ones and having to always pick up the phone when my wife called. No matter what, everything was a Defcon 5 nukes in the air problem that needed to be solved 2 hours ago. Full disclosure, I made a lot of mistakes also but I was also in a program of recovery and never thought I could be a victim of any psychological / emotional abuse. I refused to believe it and there were many other factors at play that prevented me from filing a divorce. It wasn’t until a close friend of mine who I went to college with said to me, “It doesn’t sound like to me that you have a partner!”. My jaw hit the floor, I was miserable, tired of always having to work on something and I wasn’t the only problem in our marriage. We even went to a therapist who refused to call out my wife on any of her stuff and always brought the focus back on me and what I needed to do to make things better. That was a consistent thread in my marriage until I realized that my wife was NEVER going to change and I was going to be on this train forever and I wanted out. 

It’s my hope this information helps you understand a marriage dynamic you might not have ever considered? Men can be victims of emotional abuse handed down by a manipulating & controlling female partner. Some of this information was so good that I shared it with my middle son who dated a girl that flipped out whenever he turned off his location services on his mobile. He connected the dots today also, which was awesome. I’ll see ya in there!

Keep smiling, 

R-

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